Ridiculously Simple Steps To Transform Your Health (And Life): Step Nine

by Chiropractors Brighton on October 6, 2009

Dandelion BlowingWe learn many things from those who are our mentors – parents, teachers, elders – not only how to wash a car, bake a cake or mow the lawn etc but how to conduct our relationships with other people too. We learn our emotional behaviours from them! We copy the examples we have seen while we are growing up. We get very little information during our school and college years on how to develop and practice emotional intelligence. At some point in our development we become conscious and realize that some of those behaviours we have learned have been unhealthy, just like we would realize we have stepped in a puddle and right at that point we get the opportunity to do something about it.

Remember: The road map to true health and vitality involves not only Eating Well and Moving Well, but Thinking well too – this is perhaps the most challenging part of the program. Our Ridiculously Simple Steps To Transform Your Health (and Life) involves changing our thought patterns that stimulate over supply of toxic hormones that cause inflammation in our body which then becomes a fertile breeding ground for disease.

Changing our thought patterns that create our behaviour is our responsibility. The Chinese have a proverb which says – “After twenty one, your face is your own fault!” We can’t continue to blame people for the things that happen in our lives although this may make us feel better at the time, it impresses upon us very firmly that we have been a victim – we have been in the wrong place at the wrong time. These thoughts are extremely disempowering.

It is a very large emotional step to take in accepting responsibility for everything that has ever happened to us, and everything that is happening to us, but in doing so it empowers us to choose how we will live with the memory and where we will take our life into the future. Sometimes this will not be a ridiculously small step to improve our lives, rather, a major leap – however we can take a ridiculously small step in the right direction. Remember – every journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step!

Some time ago I began to read a book titled A Child Called ‘It’ by Dave Pelzer and I have to confess that because of the horror of what I read I could not continue with the book. I just could not understand how anyone could ever treat another human being in such a way – especially a child. This heart wrenching story is about a child being beaten and starved by his emotionally unstable alcoholic mother: a mother who played tortuous, unpredictable games. No longer considered a son, or a boy – he became an ‘it’ and slept in an old army cot and ate from the dogs bowl. Dave kept his dream alive in his heart to one day find a family who would love, cherish and care for him. I really wanted to read this man’s story because of the way he overcame such horror and not only moved on, but has become one of America’s most effective and respected communicators. He was selected as torchbearer for the 1996 Olympic Torch relay. He has dedicated his life to helping others, help themselves. Dave has been able to find the courage to not only break the chains of the past and learn to love and trust again but live for the future – through forgiveness.

Two of the greatest of spiritual practices are love and forgiveness………………. these practices set us free from hate and resentments that keep us bound by our own chains which we so willingly provide. Toxic thoughts eventually make us sick and/or cause physical pain, so if for no other reason but our physical health, we need to learn to love and let go.

Sometimes it is ourselves alone whom we need to love and forgive the most – for all the things we keep telling ourselves we should have done, or could have been, or would have chosen. Some years ago I attended a self development course and part of that course was about learning to love and forgive ourselves and in it we were advised to find a quiet place and sit down and take that inner child (visualise ourselves as if we were a child) onto our laps and into our hearts and look into their eyes and love and forgive them. This is a very powerful practice and is best done daily for a few minutes a day if you are having trouble forgiving yourself.

Although sometimes controversial, Landmark Education run fantastic programs on personal development that helps people to forgive, let go and love again. I personally witnessed many people being reunited after many years of being torn apart through hurt and misunderstandings. I would add – these programs are not for the faint hearted!

Our Ridiculously Simple Steps To Transform Your Health (and Life) is to take the time to reflect on the freedom there is in letting go and forgiving. By letting go of your past a new world opens up before you – you’ll not only learn to live again but you’ll be healthier, wiser, more peaceful and more centred than ever before.

Practice. Practice. Practice.

Your comments and suggestions are invited on this blog post.  Thankyou.

Dr Richard McMinn Chiropractors Brighton

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Zam Walker October 6, 2009 at 5:39 pm

As a Christian minister I find that forgiveness is absolutely key to spiritual – and physical and emotional – health. At each public service we have space for what may be formally called confession and absolution/assurance of pardon. In modern speak it would be called ‘recognition’ (for confession) i.e. acknowledging the truth of your own situation, and ‘acceptance’ (absolution/assurance), through letting go of grudges, hurts and bitterness. To be able to do this each week enables us to move forward; if we don’t, if we continue to refuse to face the reality of our lives and acknowledge that things need to change, then old destructive patterns of behaviour persist and we continue to carry our burdens. Forgiveness is liberation!

Chiropractors Brighton October 7, 2009 at 8:11 pm

Thankyou for your insights Zam – forgiveness is a gift we give ourselves!
Forgiveness is a choice.

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